I remember the thrill each time we played, the excitement of it. I was nervous that we make it as good as the last time. I also remember my dad teaching me to skip rocks, and the pride in his voice, the joy he took at sharing this whimsical but precise skill. These were times to be cherished; tangible evidence of something incredibly flattering, that my parents seemed to not only love me in some abstract way, but actively enjoy spending time with me. At the time, theirs were the only opinions that mattered, and the pleasure I saw on their faces just filled me up. I needed nothing else.
My mom and I would chose our table for its view of the others. I don’t remember ordering food, but maybe I nibbled at some overpriced pastry or she sipped at a coffee as we spoke. We would – at least, I remember that I would – take pains to not turn in obvious ways, to not give away where we were looking. Our conversation wouldn’t be whispered, just politely quiet, easily lost in the wash of sound any public place provides.
It was a team sport. She’d pick someone, pluck him out of his anonymity, and the first thing to do was take several moments to simply sit, watching, waiting for inspiration. We would glance, not stare. There – the balding man in the yellow shirt, with the large bag, here on the left – see who I’m talking about? This was our canvas. It was best not to force it. Take him in without looking for something specific. Let it happen on its own.
Then we started telling the story. We were kind and knowing. Anyone could see his dour silence, the uneasy eyes, the nervous way he stirred his cold coffee. We knew, we understood like no one else, the circumstances hidden just outside of the frame. Do you think he’s waiting for his sister? We sketched roughly at first, thinking out loud, shooting each other down. No, no, he’s clearly been stood up. Look at the way he’s slouching. But some stories aren’t worth telling, are cheap or too obvious. We preferred unlikely and devilishly specific to probable, prudent and boringly vague.
The meat of our story came from one person. After the rough drafts one of us would realize that we had it – that perfect mixture of plausibility and bold fiction – and it told itself. Like the real story would be, were we to ever learn it, ours was unexpected in interesting and believable ways. Like the real story, it was detailed and unique. This man knows very little English, my mom would begin. (She always knew how to hook you. Also, she liked her stories to involve foreigners.) Guri. From Albania. He is in this country because his brother promised to get him a job, but it hasn’t worked out yet, he’s been strung along and he’s beginning to doubt his decision to come here at all. His brother told him to get out of the apartment and enjoy the city’s museums, so he came here, but he hasn’t been able to enjoy any of the art and he can’t get his mind off home.
What we had at this point could be called a foundation, but functioned more like a slip ‘n’ slide: the rest of the story poured out, flowing from the character we’d created. We talked over each other. The detail one of us created immediately showed up in an angle the other had planned. This courtyard reminds him of a place he used to love to go, back home – to go with a woman! He’s thinking of her – he’s missing her, that’s why he regrets coming here – he used to share coffee with her, and it’s too sad to drink it on his own – he’s looking at the other couples here and feeling how lonely – the coffee is no good compared with what he drank in his country. Ahuh. Yeah. Pause. The coffee was disappointing, and it reminded him of a time he went out for coffee with this woman he loves back where he could understand the language, where he felt at home. My mom would smile, and I would smile, and I would be so proud, and feel so happy.
Ah! She would say, when I filled in a crucial piece of the puzzle. I would encourage her most inspired moments: yeah. Yeah. We would sit quietly again, armed with secret knowledge. It was maudlin, it had pathos, it involved foreigners. Watching this man now, we would see Guri, the Albanian lonely heart. It was like a movie we had written coming to life. A moment would pass at it’s own pace. Then: what do you think is in the bag?
My mom started the game. I don’t remember the first time, how she brought it up. I don’t remember it needing an explanation; it was self-evidently an awesome way to pass an afternoon. Was this something she had done with friends, curious college buddies in love with New York City, turned on by the endless possibilities embodied in the countless strangers they passed every day? We always played in the courtyard at the Museum of Modern Art, so for me the excitement of being in the city combined with the excitement of Important Culture, and of being alone with my mom, and of creating something. Where did she play with her friends? Why there? Or was the game silent and internal until I came along, one of those well practiced but wholly private exercises, like the imaginary interviews I give to Terri Gross? Do you get to say out loud to your kid the things you’ve kept from fellow adults?
I picture my mom, young, no children, no husband, a crowd surrounding her on the subway platform. There are no iPods and no earbuds. People’s chosen distractions each reveal something about them: The Wall Street Journal instead of the Times, a romance novel mainstay instead of the latest literary star. Say my mom was without anything that day. She’s bored, and hot, the station air stiff and still. She notices that the man next to her is reading the Post, the editorial page, and the fragment of the headline she can make out suggests that there’s a good chance this is not a man she would agree with about almost anything. He reminds her of someone she knew once, but it’s hard to pin down. She notices his watch, which has a few visible scratches and a very worn leather band, and then his shoes. Without meaning to, she’s staring at the cuff of his pants, which has been folded over at one point. She knows the way her father dresses, the way his closet smells, the way he hangs his suspenders. She imagines this man’s closet must look different. Maybe he lives alone, and gets dressed half asleep, resenting the new day, thinking only of the first cup of coffee. She checks his face, around his eyes. He doesn’t look poorly rested at all, just very patient, very calm. Erase erase erase. Start again.
There’s no clear line between observation and speculation, just as there’s no clear line dividing a mental habit from a formalized activity. The rules write themselves. Passing people on the sidewalk, sitting in restaurants, noticing the couple, not particularly agitated but not particularly happy, over by the bar – the stories my mom comes up with get more intricate, more courageous. They are funny. They are terribly tragic. The only clear line is the one she crosses when she shares the game with me. It’s the first time she’s told any of the stories out loud.
As with all our stories, this is most likely not true, not even a little. As with all our stories, that doesn’t matter. Not even a little. The act of writing false biographies for our fellow MOMA patrons helped us remember how much is unseen, unexpected, how much is unknowable about the people around us. It also let us have fun at others’ expense. It was an act of willful creation, wholly ours, and our pleasure was as much in the invention as in the observation and pseudo-scientific deduction. If it made for a better story we’d happily suspension our disbelief.
As with all our stories, the way I imagine my mom coming to this storytelling is about me more than any external reality. The subway curiosity is my own. The concealment of daily mental rituals is my own. The dramatic, energetic inner voice, the rapt inner audience, even the memories of a watch scratch and a closet smell are mine. My mom taught me how to write fiction. How to love writing fiction.
The curiosity, the attentive observation, the awe and the gratitude may all have found their way into me some way or another. New York City seems to leave me no other choice. But fiction is different. For that, I have to thank my mom, and those balmy afternoons we spent surrounded by boring, inscrutable sculpture and blank, intriguing human canvases.